3 things every woman needs to know.
Guys are simple, not stupid. Okay, some guys are stupid. Most are not. When it comes to dating, it is not that guys don’t get it; it is just that they view the dating relationship in a different way than a woman does. Different is not always bad. Different adds depth, and dimension to a relationship. It is not necessary for a woman to see dating the same way a man does, but it is necessary for her to understand how he views it. This will help her to avoid messing up what could be a tremendously valuable relationship due simply to a misunderstanding. So, in the spirit of better relationships, here are the things you need to know about how a man views relationships.
Dating Fulfills His Need for Companionship
Yes, guys want companionship. However, they don’t want a Velcro relationship. They are still going to want their space. They just like knowing that you are there, and that you are interested in them. They want to know that they are not alone, and that someone is thinking about them. It’s not complicated.
He just likes being with you. He may not even want to talk. He may enjoy watching a movie with you and never speaking a single word. That is how guys do companionship. The truth is that they would far rather have you as a companion than another smelly guy. Unfortunately, far too many women don’t understand how a guy views such a relationship, and they pressure him to be overly communicative. This causes him to push away. That is not what you want ladies, so just learn to “be there.” He’ll thank you for it. (Well, maybe not verbally, but you’ll know.)
Dating Fulfills His Need for Conquest
Deep down every guy is a knight in search of a dragon. Okay, that is a bad analogy. You are not the dragon. The knight is in search of the princess and there is a dragon standing between him and her. There, that is better. Somehow I wish I had chosen a different analogy.
The point I am trying to make, is that guys are looking for a challenge that ends in getting the girl. Finding a girl, working up the courage to ask her out, and attempting to win her affection are bread and butter for most guys. Don’t fight it. They will do some of the sweetest things while trying to win your heart.
Dating Fulfills His Need for Accomplishment
Men have a habit of judging their dates, by the others in the room. If it offends you to be compared in this manner, then you may just have to get over it. Guys want to know when they go to a party that they are taking the prize of the ball…so to speak. He wants other guys to look at him and think, “Whoa, that guy is lucky!” Simply put, if you make him look good, it will make you look even better to him.
Now you don’t have to agree with what I have said, or even like it, but the majority of guys would agree. If you are a guy reading this, why not chime in and let me know how close I am. What else would you add? I would love to have you feedback.