Understanding what turns her on and off and know what she is thinking.
You see her. She is standing on the other side of the room. She is amazing! Something just seems to be screaming inside of you to go introduce yourself. You work up the courage, and approach her. She sees you. She smiles. So far so good. You think up your best pick up line and let it go. “Baby, you got so many curves, it’s a good thing I corner nicely.” Game over.
Okay, I’ll give you more credit than to think you would ever use such a cheesy line…ever. Still, if you don’t know what actually attracts a woman, and what kind of thing turns her on or off, you may as well be spitting out those horrible pick up lines you hear on television sitcoms.
You don’t have to approach dating with a “hit or miss” attitude. A little research and understanding will give you a much better chance to come off as attractive, rather than repulsive. Here is what you need to know.*
*I am not making the claim that all women will fit into the advice I am about to give. In fact, as women, we reserve the right to change the rules without notice. You didn’t think we would be that easy to figure out did you?
Women are More Than the Sum of Their Several Parts
That is just a fancy way of saying, “QUIT JUDGING ME BY MY BREAST SIZE!” Seriously, women know when they are being looked over. They want to feel attractive, but they want to be viewed as more than just a piece of meat. If you cannot keep your eyes from straying to her neckline she may get the idea, you are not really interested in her person. Big turn off. The same would go for any other part of her body. Being overly preoccupied with her physical attributes won’t be nearly the turn on you wish it was.
If you think a man who is a jerk turns on a woman, then you don’t know women. Most women are attracted to a man who is able to be sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. No matter how much progress we have made as a society, it turns out that a man that knows how to treat others with respect and decency is still a big turn on. If she has kids, a man who knows how to get down on their level, and make them feel important is even more attractive than a man who shows up with a dozen roses. In fact, make the kids feel special, and bring a dozen roses. Why take chances?
Wearing the Big Boy Pants
It turns out that juvenile behavior is a big turn off. Women are attracted to men who are mature, and independent. Don’t mistake that to mean that they don’t want you to have a sense of humor. Women like a man who can make them laugh. However, high school pranks, rude body noises, and living with mommy are big turn offs. Grow up a bit and you will find your success rate will climb.
There is no way that we could tell you everything you need to know about how a woman thinks in just one article; or even a hundred for that matter. However, in the remaining articles in this series I will do my best to help you unlock the secrets to getting deeper into your relationships.
What do you think about this article? If you are a man, what questions do you have that we have not answered yet? I look forward hearing from you!