Finding out that your loved one has been unfaithful is absolutely gut-wrenching and can cause you to feel lost, devastated, disillusioned and resentful. While the initial shock and anger might leave you wanting your other half to rot in hell, you really need to make a decision as to whether or not you can, or want, to move past it; and if your relationship is important enough to try to work through the broken trust and issues that have arisen.
Some people consider infidelity to be a total deal breaker that there is no coming back from. But if you’re not ready to throw it all away and you really want to rebuild the love and trust in your relationship, it is possible if both parties are committed.
There are a few steps that you can take as a couple to start mending the damage that has been done.
Honesty is crucial when it comes to regaining trust. Talk openly about the details of the indiscretions but leave out the unnecessary gruesome details that really don’t matter, such as what the other person was like in bed or what sex positions were used.
Work Out What Went Wrong
Most instances of cheating stem from an underlying problem in the relationship. Whether it be difficulty in communicating or a lack of intimacy and affection, it’s important to work out the cause so you can work towards finding a solution.
Cut All Ties with the Other Person
Regardless of who the other person is that was involved in the infidelity, all contact needs to be ceased. Trust isn’t an easy thing to earn back and while those other people are still a factor in your life, there isn’t going to be much hope of earning that trust back. Making a fresh start helps to prove that there is nothing to hide.
Try To Get Your Sex Life Back On Track
Infidelity can make it really hard to even think about sex without your mind going back to the depths of hurt and betrayal. Take things as slowly as you need to and keep the lines of communication open to rebuild the level of intimacy you once shared.
Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help
The discovery of infidelity can leave you with fears that you’ve never had to deal with before and it’s common to feel like you’ve lost your true sense of self during the relationship. Life coaching is ideal for conquering those fears and can give you the power to dig down through the hurt and regain your identity.
These days, the lines can be blurred as to what being unfaithful really means and an emotional affair can be just as devastating as a physical affair. What do you personally consider to be cheating?