As human beings, we have an intriguing ability to be able to self-sabotage and become our own worst enemy – often without even realizing it.
When things start to go well in our lives we frequently find some way or another to screw it up! And nine times out of ten we don’t even need anyone else’s help, we are quite capable of making a mess of things all on our own.
There are hundreds of ways we do this. We kick a bad habit, feel really good about ourselves and then fall off the wagon again; we work hard to lose weight, reach our goal and then put it all back on; we find a great partner that gives us everything we have ever wanted, we get scared that something is going to go wrong and then we push them away.
The fact of the matter is, we have all done it in some point of our lives – it’s surprisingly common.
Self-sabotage is often caused by low self-esteem, feeling unlovable and unworthy of success. But it doesn’t have to be a lifelong affliction. There are a few steps you can take to change your mindset and give yourself the chance to achieve what you really deserve in life.
Recognize the problem
Have a good hard look at the decisions you make and try to work out why you are so intent on ruining the things you want so badly. Find the reason and own it!
Be willing to let go of those reasons and make a conscious decision not to slip back into the same frame of mind that lead to the self-sabotage in the first place. You DO deserve to be happy and have success – GO GET IT!!
Take a mental note and reward yourself every time you take a positive step away from the negative thoughts and doubts that hold you back from everything that you want in life.
Power in numbers
Surround yourself with like-minded people who want to succeed and aren’t going to feed your insecurities and bring you crashing back down into the dark hole of self-sabotage that you worked so hard to dig yourself out of.
Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. There can actually be some awesome rewards waiting there if you just have enough faith in yourself to take the leap.
Have you ever had any issues with self-sabotage? How did you overcome them and what did it help you achieve?