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Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

So, why not say what you mean and mean what you say? As a society, we have a hard time saying what we mean and being assertive. Studies like this one from Columbia show that being too assertive and not assertive enough are both shown as weaknesses in leaders. We are a culture of sugar-coating and not being fully honest – we skirt the truth because that little white lie doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings. But I must ask, wouldn’t we all be less confused if people said what they really meant? “I’ll call you,” meaning “I won’t call you.” “I’ll pay [...]

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Why Do People Lie?

"…All men are liars." Now remember, Pinocchio: be a good boy. And always let your conscience be your guide. ~The Blue Fairy This statement was made by King David, of the nation of Israel, thousands of years ago. Have you ever felt that way? There are times when it just seems like you can't trust anyone. Why do people do it? We know that lying ultimately leads to heartache and destruction, and yet people continue to do so. Lying has become so prevalent in the public square, that it is now almost a joke. We now assume that [...]

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Should You Always be Honest In Relationships?

To lie or not to lie, that is the question. Should you always be honest? Do these pants make my thighs look big? Honesty is a major cornerstone of every relationship. Everyone knows that relationships built on lies will soon crumble and fall. If you can't trust someone to tell you the truth, then you cannot trust them at all. Right? Well, if that is true, then what would you say to someone who asks, "Should you always be honest and tell the truth in a relationship?" The answer would seem to be yes, but then we have [...]

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Is There A Proper Time To Lie?

Q: Is there a proper time to lie? My Fiancé lies about really stupid things and when I confront him, he tells me it is to spare me discomfort and protect me. I am sincerely troubled about this and think if he is lying to me about such small details like a book or a CD, what is my life with him going to be like especially if something more important happens? Is there ever a proper time to lie to someone? ~ Ticked in Temecula

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