Advice Column

Is There A Proper Time To Lie?

Q: Is there a proper time to lie? My Fiancé lies about really stupid things and when I confront him, he tells me it is to spare me discomfort and protect me.  I am sincerely troubled about this and think if he is lying to me about such small details like a book or a CD, what is my life with him going to be like especially if something more important happens?  Is there ever a proper time to lie to someone? ~ Ticked in Temecula

Looking for a Gentleman

Q: How do I find a gentleman? I'm single and starting to get out into dating again. I am finding that todays mores are in a terrible condition. What has happened to courtesy, thoughtfulness, manners and conversation. I can text, go on the PC, and much more. What has happened to calling on the phone. It seems that having sex with strangers is acceptable, but picking up the phone is taboo. I'm looking for a gentleman and he will get a kind and warm woman in return. Do any of these men still exist in today's society???? ~ Jakey