Are you spending quality time?
When you hear the words “I need some quality time with you,” it is best to listen, IF you want to keep your Goddess. She is communicating her love language and you obviously have been kickin’ it and her.
Many relationships suffer because men don’t want to spend quality time with their girl. She communicates, drops hints, makes suggestions, plans things and even begs. But you ignore her requests, poke fun, have another excuse or just choose to disregard her completely and go kickin’ it with the boys instead.
In the beginning, I bet you had the playa lines and put thought into things that would make her happy, because you wanted to win her time, love, and intimacy. That’s all well and good, but not if you can only maintain it for a week!
You know what she likes, IF you have been paying attention and care. Create a date night, do something to make her feel like a teenage girl again and to make her feel special, regularly. That’s all she is asking – for quality time.
Sure times are hard, money is tight, have a hectic schedule, you are tired from work, yada, yada, yada…She gets that, she has heard it all from you. But keep in mind, if you do not put the time in, she will get fed up and make room for another guy who wants to spend quality time. When she gets to this point she will simply say “Sorry, I have plans, see you when I see you.” She will go elsewhere to get her needs met and the time you should have spent with her will become time spent wondering where she is, who she is with and YES, even driving past her house to figure out where you stand and who is holding her heart.
Be aware of the consequences of what kickin’ it too much will do to your relationship – resentment, break-ups, divorces, or cheating. Listen to what your girl is saying to you. She will tell you what she wants, needs and how to love her.
Heed my warning men…The boys will always be there, but it is hard to make up for lost quality time with your girl and once she has found someone who treats her better, she will be gone.
Start Rockin’ it!
If you love her the way that she wants to be loved, I guarantee she will be “loving” you the way that you want all of the time.
Ladies, this goes for you too. Men are not the only gender negligent of quality time. All he wants is the girl he fell in love with. Trust, if you don’t do it, there is a woman out there who has been neglected by a man who will be more than happy to take your place.
As I look back over my adult years and my years of dating and being married, I must admit that there were times I spent kickin’ it when I should have been rockin’ it. These days I know better and understand the importance of rockin’ it.
Relationships take effort-It’s a dance-Let’s Tango!
What are your thoughts on this topic?