Do you ever doubt your abilities?
It’s natural every once in a while to doubt yourself. But if you don’t trust yourself on a regular basis not only will it stop you from living your life now, it might hinder you from unleashing your potential for the future.
We all want to live happy fulfilling lives right? So why do so many of us not trust ourselves?
I spoke with a client recently about her current life situation and why she felt stuck. She went through so much heartache and worked hard to achieve the current success she has now. She’s traveled all over the world, faced a lot of discrimination, and still managed to have a wonderful career. She is currently trying to start her own business while starting a family at the same time. Talk about lots of changes!
The more I spoke to her, the more I realized that she didn’t trust herself and the process of transformation. We are so busy giving compliments to others, but why do we feel it’s not ok to do the same for ourselves? Why do we end up questioning ourselves so much even when people around us tell us the opposite?
I told her that whenever she doubts herself, she should stop and scan her emotions. Why is she saying these things to herself? Are they really true? I told her over and over again that she had come so far, and it would be a shame to not trust herself.
If you have self-doubt, do the same. Stop when you have these types of thoughts and remind yourself that you are all you have. Trust yourself. Love yourself. The more you do this, the easier it will be. You may even find that your self-limiting beliefs will disappear over time.
I leave you with this quote:
“In order to create you have to believe in your ability to do so and that often means excluding whole chunks of normal life, and, of course, pumping yourself up as much as possible as a way of keeping on. Sort of cheering for yourself in the great football stadium of life.”
― T.C. Boyle