Sex! Sex! And more SEX!
Now that I have your attention. Sex rocks! All in agreement say aye! No matter what you’re into, be it kinky, fetish, role-playing, wild, tantric, slow and soft or hard-core hair pulling Hi Ho Silver Away, sex with your significant other is one of the greatest gifts we are given.
I was speaking with my cousins and friend or two this week about just that. Long gone are the days when we looked at our grandparents knowing they weren’t getting it any anymore.
I say, screw that, no pun intended…Shake your Bon-bon. Use it or lose it. My cousins, friends and I are all in our 50’s and 60’s and it appears that we all have one thing in common, we all still have plenty of BANG left in us.
Yet, for some, despite best efforts, it’s tough to get in the mood when you have fallen into a routine every time you do the deed. Yawn…I realize that most men believe that even bad sex is still good, but I believe all men (and women) agree that GREAT fornication is better.
Get out of your comfort zone. Psst, it isn’t comfortable. Try something new. Even for me, writing a blog like this is a tad uncomfortable. I usually reserve my juicy love potions for one on one encounter’s with my man. Meh, sharing is caring. The truth is, it’s just a list…having a list to get creative with is one thing, knowing what to do with it…that’s up to you. I can’t give away all my magic now can I?
Light up the senses: Sights, Sounds, Smells, Tastes and Touches.
Scented candles, incense or burning oils. Cook him a great meal in nothing but an apron and heels and let the aroma linger.
Music-Match the music to the mood you are setting. Just enough to drown out the background noise but not too much that you can’t hear each other moan and groan in pleasure.
Draw a hot bath with a few drops of lavender oil. Greet him at the door when he comes home in a fluffy white terry cloth robe. Help him undress from a long stressful work day and lead him to the bathroom. Drop the robe next to the tub and grab your rubber ducky.
Ditch the perfume-let your pheromones do the work. We have them for a reason-kinda silly to cover them up. However, if he has a scent that he likes…wear it.
Lingerie-C’mon you know what he likes ladies. Leather, lace, silk, satin or his favorite pink button-down, give it to him. He loves it and so do we. I realize that some men aren’t into the lingerie. No problem. Grab your sexiest pair of heels, throw on a long strand of pearls and strut your best Audrey Hepburn.
Give the couch, kitchen counter, washing machine, roof, elevator or lounge chair in the yard a whirl.
Have a picnic on the living room floor, in bed or at the park. Bring all his favorite finger foods or shop together for an intimate feast. Feed him with your fingers and taste his lips.
Sexy shower dance. Or dare I say, how about a lap dance? Take a shower together and soap each other up. Soap, hot water and a hot man slithering against you…Oofahfogettaboutit!
Send him a sexy text message the day after telling him you are still thinking about the night before.
Send him an email asking him to meet you at a bar somewhere and have him sit at one corner while you flirt with him from another corner
Talk dirty! That’s right, you read that right. Now, I don’t mean like a truck driver that just blew a tire and spun out of control. Although, there is a time and a place for that. Usually when you are in a truck, the tire blew and you are spinning out of control. I digress. What I mean is whisper things in his ear that you know will make him and/or you crazy. Either way…He will love it.
Get loud-Make some noise and wake up the neighbors now and again. Don’t worry, I happen to know for a fact some enjoy it and I have a hunch that a few may enjoy it a tad too much. But that’s a whole different blog. Nothing says that feels amazing better than a loud declaration of pleasure.
Massage-Got oil? Coconut oil (personal favorite), warming oil, Kama Sutra-An all over (and I do mean all over) slow sensual massage-You won’t be having to ask, hello, is this thing on?
Phone sex-Call him from another room and get him all stirred up. In a long distance relationship? Technology yay! Skype, Google, FaceTime…no excuses-Click and say helloooo Luva!
Chocolate! Dark, milk, white, chunked, diced, bits, chips, melted-It doesn’t matter, as long as it is chocolate! Nothing says I want to sex you up better than chocolate.
Most important: Focus, enjoy and wear him out like an old pair of shoes.