What are some signs of cheating?
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No one likes to think that their mate would be unfaithful. Often when an affair comes to light, we may be taken totally off guard. However, studies show that in most cases, there were signs of cheating long before the truth was known about the affair. Too often we are just not aware of the red flags, or ignore them altogether.
In case you might be wondering about your mate’s faithfulness, here are some of the signs of cheating that you should be looking for. Please understand that no one of these things individually mean that your mate is definitely cheating on you, but are indications that things may not be right.
Significant Changes in Behavior
If your mate becomes irritable and is constantly looking for a fight with you, it is a sign of serious trouble. Often starting a fight that results in them storming out of the house is a cover for their desire or need to leave without arousing suspicion. Every couple has spats now and then, but if the intensity and frequency of these arguments increase; it is time to pay attention.
The opposite behavior can also be an indicator. If your partner suddenly begins being overly nice and kind in a way that is unusual; then be suspicious. All of us have reasons for feeling the need to suddenly change our behaviors. We are motivated by external stimuli. Watch for these extremes of behavior that are out of the ordinary, as they may be signs of an affair.
Sudden Desire for Secrecy
If your significant other suddenly develops a desire for secrecy and starts locking their computer, phone and even desk drawers, then there is obviously something they are hiding. Again, don’t jump to an immediate conclusion, but if the secrecy level increases to a level greater than in the past, there is a good chance that your mate is hiding correspondence from you. Another way this shows up is when they get phone calls at odd times and feel the need to leave the room or house before accepting the call.
You got together because of an emotional connection in the first place. If all of the sudden you notice that your lover seems distant and detached emotionally, then something is wrong. Maybe they are just going through a difficult time at work, or maybe they have connected with someone else. You will most likely feel the difference in your gut before you actually notice it. Trust your instincts. They are usually right.
Changes in Physical Appearance or Grooming
When you have been with someone for a while you grow comfortable with your appearance and often let the little things go. Adding a few pounds; not shaving; wearing those old sweatpants; you know what I mean. If your partner suddenly starts taking extra special care of their appearance then there is usually a reason. Watch for:
- Sudden loss of weight
- Change in grooming habits
- Suddenly using cologne or perfume for no apparent reason.
If these types of activities take place, especially when your partner is going out, then you have a right to be suspicious. Again, be careful not to jump to conclusions, but just be aware that something might be going on.
Again, no one likes to think that cheating will happen to them. However, knowing how to spot the signs of cheating can significantly aid you in preparing yourself and possibly even heading off the behavior before it becomes a real problem.
Have you experienced the effects of cheating in your relationship? Were you taken by surprise, or did you see signs that something was amiss? It would be awesome if you would share your experiences and add something to the topic.