Stop turning her off and start turning her on

Guys make some of the dumbest mistakes with it comes to women.  Sometimes they can be downright annoying.  Trust me on that.  The truth is there are as many ways for a guy to irritate a woman that will start turning her off, as there are diet plans promising a new and better you!  We certainly can’t talk about all of them in this one blog post. However, I do want to take a moment and discuss three of the things guys do that not only irritate a woman but also prevent intimacy.  Now I know I have the guy’s attention.

Turning her off - Leslie J Saul Relational Life Coach Philadelphia

Dirty Hands

Guys think about sex.  Look at the average guy around you. Chances are pretty good that he is thinking about sex right now.  It’s just how they are wired.  If you are a guy, denying it won’t do you any good. We are on to you!

In many ways, a guy can turn off his irritation and turn on his sex drive at a moment’s notice.  Just the sight of his lover in a revealing outfit is probably all that is necessary to “get him in the mood.”  I realize, of course, that there are exceptions.  However, the reason they are exceptions is that they are not the majority!

Women can’t just separate intimacy from emotion.  Again, I am speaking on broad terms here. (No pun intended!)  It is important if you are a guy to realize the kind of things that you can do to really irritate your lady and cause her to take a “chill pill” in regards to sex. Knowing is half the battle.  The other half is to avoid those behaviors.  That is the hard part.

Lack of Good Personal Hygiene

Have you ever seen one of those movies where a woman, overcome with desire, attacks a man who has just crawled out of the sewer where he battled the creature that had been holding the woman hostage moments earlier? He is bloody, and cover in…well…sewer.

Seemingly oblivious to this fact, the woman throws herself into the hero’s arms and what follows is not appropriate for children.

Guess what guys. That’s what we call fiction, and the woman is being paid big bucks to act that way. Your significant other actually doesn’t like to be intimate with you when you are smelly and poorly groomed. It irritates her, therefore, turning her off. Clean up. Soap and water are cheap!

Lack of Manners

Women don’t like rude guys. Your lack of attention to etiquette will not be a turn on for her.  Cleaning your ears at the dinner table, or scratching the itch in public will embarrass and irritate her, making your chances of getting lucky a whole lot less.  Brush up on your manners. They pay off.

Lack of Foreplay

No…not the kind you are thinking of!  For a woman, foreplay starts long before you get into the bedroom.  Foreplay is the way you treat her during the day. It is the little things you do to let her know you care, and that you are thinking about her. If you have kids, it’s taking over bath time while she escapes to the bedroom to unwind and decompress. I know…that is not sexy to you, but it is to her!  Most gals don’t just want to “jump in the sack.”  They want to feel genuinely cared for. They know what you want, but they are far less likely to be in a giving mood if you have been selfish or inattentive all day. Think about it.

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What other things have you discovered are real buzz killers? What about you ladies? What is your number one thing that men do that is always turning you off?  Why not share?  Your feedback could just help another.